What a week…

It has been a WEEK! First Daylight Savings Time totally messed with the toddler. Let me tell you neither one of us was happy about this, NEITHER ONE OF US. Thankfully his sleep schedule seems to be back to normal at this point. Then there was the weather on Tuesday. Seriously I thought how could this week get worse. I swear I heard Mother Nature say “hold my beer”. We got a lot of it.

I also started working for a new and awesome client. So it’s been interesting balancing being a SAHM who has a part-time job on the side. But never fear I’m calling in the grandparents to help once a week. Which will be a huge help. In the meantime I pull up a tv table to the baby gate and work while he plays or babbles to me. It works…sort of. Mostly it doesn’t because I have mommy guilt for doing it. But the work has to get done.

Just to give you an idea on how busy last week was…I started this post on Saturday…I’m publishing it on Monday. Yeah…

Can we please stop shaming momma’s who breastfeed in public?

I mean really people it’s 2016 for crying out loud! I’ve heard comments about me breastfeeding in church (I was covered up). Thankfully the wife asked her husband “Would you tell Mary not to breastfeed Jesus?” (I about lost it)

Just the other day when I was at the mall I was feeding my guy in one of the comfy chairs (again covered) and I guess this older woman was complaining to her teenage daughters about it. I say I guess because two twentysomething women yelled over to me “Good job momma, you feed that baby!” I thought that was nice of them and then I caught the stink eye from the other woman. I felt like telling her “Look lady my kid was about to have a melt down and I have no idea where the “family room” is in this mall.

My feeling is if my baby is hungry I’m going to feed him no matter where I am. In fact I came up with this gem during one late night nursing session:

I have nursed him in a car and I have nursed him in a bar.
In a church and at my former work.
I will nurse him here or there.
I will nurse him anywhere.
I do like nursing.
I do, I do!
How about you?*

*My apologies to Dr. Seuss, but it was the only thing keeping me awake at the time!

Have you been shamed while nursing in public? Did you ignore it? Did you say something to the person? Do you think it’s stupid to shame a mom for doing the most natural thing on the planet? Let me know!

MammaBaby {app review}

For the last 8 1/2 weeks I’ve been keeping track of baby’s feedings be it boob or bottle on a pad of paper. It stems from the hospital where they asked us to track feeding and diapers. The pediatrician also asked us to do it for two additional days. Well, it stuck and I kept doing it.

I thought I was the only nutty mom doing this. But thankfully many of the moms in the Facebook mommy group I’m in do it too! Though they use an app to track feedings. So I asked which one they used and MammaBaby was the winner.

LIFE SAVER
LIFE SAVER

This app tracks feedings: breast, bottle, and solids. Diapers: wet, poop, or a mix and even lets you pick the ahem color of the poop! It even tracks sleep. Best bit is you can look back at a summary of the day. You can even add in baby’s weight, height, and head circumference to see percentiles. Nice right?

One thing I wish you could do is sync it with your spouse or other caretaker so I didn’t have to ask my husband if the baby peed or pooped while I was napping or out of the house. The other pain in the ass is trying to track the middle of the night feedings. Listen the last thing I want to do while he dream feeds is fumble around for my phone. But those are the only two downsides really.

Nice right?
Nice right?

Here’s a shot of the main “landing page and you can see all the things you can track. Please note I cropped out our little one’s pic and his birthdate for obvious reasons. But by adding in the birthdate it helps you track milestones and how much your baby should be eating, peeing/pooping, and sleeping as they get older. You can check out all that info in the Summary tab at the bottom.

The app is free to download from the Apple Store (currently it is not available for Android, not that I could find anyway). There is also a paid version for $4.99 though it’s been a little difficult to see what else you get with the full version.

MammaBaby does allow you to set alarms for feedings, nap/bedtime, and if you need to give the little love meds. Which I should actually use because the mister and I suck at giving our guy his vitamin D. Yep we’re those parents. No one is perfect people!

Long story short I love this app! No more paper and pen for me. Keeping track of the wee one is just a few clicks away. Have you used tracking apps for your little man/lady? Which ones? Why did you choose it?

What being a stay at home mom really means

Let me first say I am very lucky that my husband and I were able to afford (with some cutting of spending/luxuries) me staying home with our little guy. Thank you hubbins, you are THE BEST! So today I started my first official day as a stay at home momma. Granted I was doing it while on maternity leave too. But I’m counting this as my first day of my new job.

They don't even make these anymore.
They don’t even make these anymore.

One friend asked me how living the life of ease was? I had all I could do not to laugh in her face or worse. I guess she assumed that I sat around all day and ate bon-bons in front of the TV or did a lot of online shopping. Which as any seasoned SAHM knows is not the case.

Here’s the basic, yet not exact way my day might go: My day starts around 8am (sometimes at 3 and 6 when he stirs because he’s hungry) when the little one wakes up and I change my first gross diaper of the day. I then dress the baby in outfit one of who knows how many. Then it’s off to put him in his swing while I try to make a cup of coffee (that I try not to leave under the Keurig all day and actually drink), take my vitamins, and maybe grab some breakfast. Usually I only get the vitamins.

Next little one gets breakfast from me. While he’s eating I check in quick on Facebook (I love the mom group I’m a member of) and go through my emails. Little one then typically takes his morning nap which is when I get to work on laundry, dishes, or something else for the house for as long as his sleeping lasts so I had better make the most of it!

Once he’s awake it’s time for a diaper change possibly two (lucky me) and feeding again. I might draft one of these posts on my phone and work on it later during nap time. We then play for a little and get in another change and feeding before the afternoon nap. Sometimes I join in at nap time and sometimes I get a few more loads of laundry done, folded, and put away.

Did I mention it’s now close to 4pm and I’m still in my pj’s? Yeah that’s my life I usually don’t get dressed like an adult unless we’re going out to an appointment or to see the grandparents. Besides with the amount of spit up I deal with in a day why ruin perfectly good clothing? Spoiler alert there’s no need to ruin those good clothes that my ass probably can’t fit back into yet anyway. Then again I love my pregnancy leggings and really don’t want to give them up. Yes, I’ve become that momma. Sorry not sorry.

Where was I? Right it’s now 4pm and we’ve got some time before Daddy gets home. So we’re now on feeding/changing number who the hell knows at this point. But before we know it Daddy’s home and we tag team parenting so I can get a shower or Daddy can get some video game time in before we start on dinner. After dinner, which I’ve probably eaten lukewarm or even cold it’s time to quiet down to get the little ready to go to bed. Which means more feeding/changing and depending on what day it is bath time.

If we’re lucky he’s ready to co-sleep with momma for the night by 11pm. And by lucky I mean it’s usually later (yay). But yes friend who thought I now lived a life of ease all day please note I’m probably still not showered and I probably only had dinner as far as meals go for the day. Did I even go to the bathroom? Seriously this is not an easy job at all. I also now know why they say this is the toughest job you’ll ever love. Because even after getting peed/pooped/spit up on countless times throughout the day I get to see my ever changing kid and maintain my house.

I’m also a much happier person unlike when I was working out of the home. Who knew? Are you a stay at home mom? What’s your day like?

Crib Notes Class – AKA You’ve never been around a baby ever have you?

My husband and I attended what was called a Crib Notes class (aka you’ve never had it been around a baby before – your screwed) a few weeks prior to our little guy arriving. It was a five hour crash course in parenting 101. Which really meant glossing over everything you needed to know as a first time parent.

Diapering – the woman running the course gave every couple a doll baby (the head popped off of one of them which terrified the mom who had that doll – I won’t lie I laughed at her expense) and basically told us three things: if you have a boy keep his business covered and point him south, always put the diaper on by putting the back under the butt, and to watch out for blowouts. Then said ok now everyone change a diaper! This is not what I would call great instructions for people who have never changed a diaper. Thankfully I had and that’s like riding a bike you don’t forget. But for my husband it was less than helpful. Step-by-step would have been nice oh and the “ruffles out” would have also been helpful. If you’ve ever had a really big poop diaper you know what I mean!

Bath time – here we had step by step instructions on how to wash the baby. Which was great until you actually get the baby home and again realize your kid might truly hate the bath! Actually we found out what he hated was having the tub near the kitchen window. Luckily we have a big walk-in shower and can sit on the floor and bathe him in his tub that way…only took us one bath time near the window in the kitchen to figure that one out (way to go us). Yes we sort of use their step-by-step method of bathing a baby, but we also learned you can give a pretty great bath in about 15 minutes if one of you does the washing and the other the rinsing. Also make sure to use a third wash cloth to cover up the baby’s bits…TRUST ME!

Car seat – this was great that we had someone from the police department to tell us about putting the car seat in and where to go to get it checked. Not so great was her telling us it should be done at least two months in advance of having the baby. Yeah, great too bad my shower was the next weekend. Little hard to go to the police department and ask them to inspect my invisible car seat. But it was good to learn that coats were a no-no in the car seat and that all those cute toys for the car seat handle were actually dangerous and shouldn’t be used – who knew?

We also learned that if you had a pet in the house let them get to know the baby unless of course you had cats. Because according to the instructor cats are evil soul sucking bastards. Well, that’s all we’ve got lady and you know what all our cats are fine with the baby. And by fine I mean the oldest tries to step on him, the middle one stays away from him, and the third sniffs him but otherwise cares not a lick for him. Though she does sleep in his co-sleeper like it’s hers.

The instructor also informed us that bumpers and anything else in the crib beyond a crib sheet were death traps waiting to happen and we were horrible people if we used them. In fact she told us she goes to the local baby stores and takes them off all the cribs. Hey at least she’s passionate about what she does right? Sure let’s call it passionate. But we did as she suggested and have nothing harmful in the crib. Which makes me a little sad because it does not look inviting at all!

In all honestly the only thing that we took away from this class that actually helped us was: how to swaddle a baby (lifesaver), all the safety do’s and don’ts, and the car seat business. Thankfully they had tasty snacks and we also scored a free turkey (it was close to Thanksgiving). Otherwise I feel like we could have done something more with our Saturday. But live and learn right? Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t go to one of these classes, I’m just saying we didn’t get a whole lot out of it and that we could have learned what we really needed to know in two hours rather than five.

Did you attend a parenting class like this? Did you find it beneficial?

The Grey Hat Goes to NYC!

I had been planning to make a trip to NYC to see JRC for the longest time…since perhaps April of this year.  Finally the stars aligned and my ticket was purchased for a visit in mid-October.  Friday evening I arrived and we were off to Brooklyn!  Stopping along the way for chinese food and then home to meet the roommates and watch Property Brothers (why do I not have cable?).  When it was time for sleeps I was pounced on by two kitties Poe and Misty.  Super cute and not my cats so no pictures (but I do have pictures).

The next morning we were off and running for brunch.  Now, I’ve had brunch before.  But in NYC brunch is magical as it tends to come with booze.  Some NYC eateries even have unlimited brunch (aka unlimited booze).  I opted for a Bloody Mary (extra spicy) to go along with my veggie (eggplant, spinach, red peppers – good veggies) omelette complete with side salad and potatoes.  So delicious!

After that we parted ways with JRC’s roommie and friend and headed up to do a little shopping at DAVIDsTEA and LUSH.  I’d only ever been to one other DAVIDsTEA in Boston, so this was going to be a treat!  We browsed the shop and of course purchased some teas and tea to go!  Next up LUSH.  I get their book every few months, but let me tell you their store is something else!  It smells amazing and their staff is super helpful.  I wanted everything…well everything that didn’t have coconut in it.

I settled on a new shampoo, face bar, face cream bar, and a mask.  All of it was amazing.  Plus now I know what to ask for for Christmas! Muahahaha! We headed back to JRC’s place where we feasted on left over chinese food and made plans to head out to a haunted house.  Which was fun and the take away from Blood Manor was NO TOUCHING – sorry kids, you had to be there.

Then we began a quest to find a food truck Wafels & Dinges.  But said truck was not to be found.  But we did find a used book store and I of course made a purchase of these two gems.

I will always buy Sherlock Holmes books.
I will always buy Sherlock Holmes books.

We also found a comic book shop open super late and delicious sushi too. That night we opted for a cab ride home.  The next and final day in NYC we were off to watch JRC play in a bowling league.  Which was interesting, even if the staff was a bit snooty. But then, then we went to the pickle festival!  Yup that’s a thing that happens in NYC.  By the time we arrived there were hardly any pickles to be had.  Yet we still managed to score one.

Sadly I had to make my way back to Penn Station.  We had ourselves a drink while we waited at the station then JRC saw me off.  But I do hope to go back before I see her again in April in Atlanta.  After all we live so close(ish) it shouldn’t be too hard right?